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A young woman felt disrespected whenever her boyfriend looked at nude magazines, went to strip clubs, or watched internet pornography. Most likely his behavior remained hidden, but he would admit to it if his girlfriend confronted him. He continued doing these activities despite the fact that he knew it disgusted his girlfriend and caused her to feel undesirable. She also suspected he was masturbating when he was via the internet, but he would never admit to that.
Masturbation is a common practice among pornography enthusiasts. Hiding the activity can be due to others' objections; in contrast, one deep-seated reason is probably because of shame. Even the most liberal person has some degree of embarrassment concerning sexual activities. It's a core belief system that is taught to us by our parents during our formative years. Parents with traditional values teach their children that A) sex is for marriage between a male and female, and B) pornography is bad, avoid it. When children are raised in a far more permissive family system they can develop sexual ideas that will cause them problems later on, because most individuals have a normal outlook on sexual conduct. Sometimes a child's environment becomes terribly destructive should they are sexually abused. This leads to endless therapy when they become adults. (When you know, our prison system houses many sexual predators.)
Sexual activities in all forms produce a number of conscious feelings and additionally a multitude of sub-conscious thoughts. Since most of our behavior is guided by our sub-conscious, our actions can be challenging to understand. People often spend months in therapy examining their conduct before they Get the facts to the root of their behavior. Once they finally reach the underlying source, the most common reason for engaged in pornographic activities is fear. Surprised it wasn't sex? Lots of people think pornography (from the mildest to the most explicit) will be around sex. Although it may appear that way on the outside, internally it really is all about fear. This is because fear is one of the most powerful motivating forces lurking in the human psyche. Our society tells us we have to look, act, smell, and think in a particular fashion to be able to have the one thing we crave the most: intimacy with another person. Look-at the marketing and advertising world: Sex is a large product seller, and then for what reason? So someone else will think you are worthy of their affection! People who do not have "it", whatever It really is, do not measure up. So, we are forced to seek out different ways to feel good.
Most people who participate in pornographic activity are living in anxiety about intimacy. It's much easier to have a relationship with a picture than to look someone straight in the eyes and express deep feelings. The trust factor can be overwhelming to a person who's fearful. Any behavior that is thought to be unacceptable only causes more fear and hiding. The tension can destroy a relationship. As such, what do you need to do? Provide the person some space to relax. Concentrate on the qualities you admire, and ignore what you do not like. Express gratitude for the excellent you see in others (you may always find it if you look hard enough). Allowing people to be who they can be will create an environment of love and acceptance, which in turn will supply a safe atmosphere where others can share their true emotions. This might feel awkward originally, because we are conditioned to look for negativity. Alternatively, with commitment and patience, the final results are well worth the effort. The practice of allowing others to be who they are will reduce stress and bring joy into your lives.
